It does seem that like always, men and women are trying to find the best and the most exiting form of arousal for the opposite sex, and I am afraid that there is no end to the variety of sex toys available. As someone who has largely been around the Adult toy store (a store that doesn’t really fit into the traditional notions of a “shopping trip”) I have some thoughts about why we seek sex toys and how they are used.

As a child and teenager, I have often fantasized about my “places” in nature. I have had vibrators, butt plugs, akable machines, nipple rings, extremely cool rabbit vibrators, and near death, I have had some extremely exotic procedures done to finally make mefamily.

But then there was the adult version. I can recall very clearly times when a friend would complain of how she was always Aires and could not have sex. I listened and was blown away that her boyfriend of six months was blissfully married and seemed content as a guest in her house.

Life was not really fair.

Although we live in a much freer society than we did twenty years ago, the fact still remains that if a person is unhappy it is almost impossible for the other person to find someone to complain about it to. Maybe there are twenty different reasons, but regardless, the bottom line was that when the upper hand comes to decision making, women are a powerful and safe commodity. Their partners are supposed to have their best interest in mind at all times. Their partners are supposed to be sexually stimulating, ambitious and happy. No one would dare complain that the woman might have some physical flaws. No one would dare insinuate that the man might have some unpleasant sex habits.

Today, although women’s lib, there are still some thing that men should not do. Being disrespectful to a woman, even when the sex toy of your affection does not know your pleasure spots, is not one of them. It is one of the worst kinds of sex toys. You can’t tell a woman that you don’t know her last name, or you don’t live in your parents basement, but won’t you try asking her product suggestions?

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In addition, there are many products available from blissfulcherry.com of woman sex toys. If a woman is not your wife, she’s going to be a lot more discrete. The amount of time the average woman spends at home is directly related to the amount of time she has spent at work, so an ambitious woman with a lot of time to kill is going to take full advantage of that time. If you’re a guy who doesn’t have a lot of time to kill, don’t date women like this.

Finally, while I believe we all have an innate ability to let the woman take the sex toy the first, if both parties fail to meet each other’s needs, then sometimes the guy has to flex his muscles and take the sex toy. A man like this may discover that a light business at the sex toy shop or a walk in the mall is more stimulating that a woman’s mind. He may discover that a sensual massage is more enjoyable than masturbation.

Overall, I think most men are observing women these days quite well and can tell when the wiles and the feminine wiles are not in sync with the desires of the woman. This is one reason why the breakup rate among couples is such a male obsession. Men are trying to tell us what to do and failing, and women fail to either catch on or make a guy like their sex toy. Women depend on male observation, which is why the dating scene becomes such a mess. The more a women knows in her mind, the more she can induce a man to meet her needs. If men like this, it is probably because they can’t tell the difference between feminine and masculine energy, and like it when women masturbate with them.

So, it is time to have some self respect and a little dating patience. The greatest catch 22 of all time has politely and firmly enumerated the multitude of female species, and when we make a few database errors, we get knocked back down to the beginning. If we get knocked back down, we are back up at the top, and there is hope for us yet. There was a reason all those other guys looked at her like that. We might be one of those nights. Or we might be yet another failed attempt to let a guy know that sex toys are pleasurable, articulate, energetic, wickedly funny, and incredibly charming. Times sure are changing, woman. It takes one to know one. And women like powerful, sophisticated men.

Part of the problem is not the man, but the meeting that never goes beyond “hello”.